Monday, April 9, 2012

The Ugly Side of the Internet


            We live in a digital age where the internet is our primary means of obtaining information, communication, and self-expression. Most of us know the capabilities of the Internet and the amount of unfiltered content that is a mouse click away. It’s pretty common for parents to place restrictions on their children’s internet access, however most parents are either naïve to the dangers on the internet or over trusting of their children/teens. Every week there seems to be a new headline regarding an incident on the internet involving a child/teen. The ironic thing is that the majority of the incidents occur on websites that you would expect your children to be safe, like Cyber Bullying on websites like Facebook or Twitter. The newest trend is occurring on YouTube where adolescent girls are posting "Am I Ugly Video's", requesting the opinion of anonymous viewers.

            This “Am I Ugly Video” trend is taking cyber-bullying to a new realm where these girls are inviting anonymous viewers to post whatever they want about the girls.  Francisco Gonzalez-Franco, a New York-based child psychiatrist said that on a basic level, the videos are "a masochistic way to diminish their anxiety." These girls are looking for validation in completely the wrong place, and anonymous posters can make cruel comments without worrying about being identified. It’s scary what could result from one of these young impressionable girls taking a comment to heart.

            The laws that keep children safe in their daily lives don’t protect them on the internet, and there is little that websites can do to prevent these things from happening. Action needs to be taken by parents to protect their children/teens. As the internet and technology grows and evolves so should the conversation between parents and their children. Parents need to educate themselves and their children of the growing hazards of the internet, give them clear, simple Instructions.  Parents should implement Safety Measures  to help prevent their children from being caught up these trends. Simple things like monitoring children’s behavior and holding them accountable for their behavior, communicate to them that there will be consequences for abusing their internet privileges.

4 comments:

  1. I was shocked to find out about girls posting "Am I Ugly?" videos on YouTube. I think that it is unfortunate that girls look to unknown viewers on the internet for validation of their looks. This is not a positive way for young girls to establish good self-esteem.
    I completely agree with you that there is not much we can do to prevent these things from happening on the internet but parents are the key to decreasing the occurrences. Parents need to be aware of how their children are using the internet as well as educate them on how to use the internet properly and effectively. I think educating your children about the ill effects of putting personal information for everyone to see is important.

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    1. Parents try and educate their teenage children on how to use many things properly and effectively -- alcohol and automobiles, as well as things like internet, smartphones, and social media.

      The adage, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink" comes to mind.

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  2. A large part of keeping children from doing these things does fall on the parents. But the websites that allow videos to be posted like this need to somehow(I know it's a monumental task) moderate what is posted. Also there is more to it that just the girls posting these videos for validation. The issue needs to be looked at from many angles one of which I feel would be crucial in finding ways to prevent these things. Why do these girls feel the need to be validated by complete strangers, what can be done to help these girls to stop them from ever wanting to post something like this online. It's scary how quickly the internet has become a place where people turn for validation & hopefully something is in the works or can somehow be done to help prevent this stuff from occuring.

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    1. Why do girls feel the need to be validated by complete strangers? Gosh... maybe because they've learned only too well the lesson that the only measure of a woman's worth is how well they arouse sexual desire in men.

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